“My head tells me something but my gut tells me the opposite”
I (Beatrice) am now role-playing with cahtgpt by asking "him" to inpersonate one of my clients. Why?
- I wanna give you guys examples of what Lighbulb Moments is like
- I really have fun doing this and I don't wanna wait to have clients to start doing it
- I wanted to have a clearer idea in my mind of who are the people that I will help with this AND what they think like, what they inquire me about
It's time to share with you a very fun example. I asked chatgpt for an example email and the I started replying to Horizon, chatting with him. Please note that if your email is longer it's even better for me, it's easier to understand the situation, but write exactly as much as you feel like.
💌 Example 5: Big Decision Pressure
Nickname: Horizon
Age: 40
Gender: Male
Country: Italy
Message:
I have an opportunity to invest in a project that excites me, but I also risk losing the security I’ve built. My head tells me one thing, my gut another. I feel paralyzed and time is ticking.
Bea's reply:
Are you sure your head and gut tell you different things? I know it FEELS LIKE IT but... do this exercise with me: write down everything that your head is telling you. Every sentence and word. While you do that, do you also see things in your mind? Is there a chance you see scenes? Describe those visual scenes that come up with the sentences you are hearing.
[note: I would reply less briefly usually, I am reporting the raw convo as it is]
Horizon:
Alright, here’s what my head is telling me, written out sentence by sentence:
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“You worked hard for this stability — don’t throw it away.”
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“What if it fails? You’ll lose your savings.”
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“You have responsibilities. You can’t afford to be reckless.”
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“Better to stick with what you know. At least you’re safe.”
And while I’m writing this, I notice the scenes in my mind:
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I see myself sitting at my desk, bills in a neat pile, almost like a fortress of paper around me.
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I see my family at the dinner table — calm, stable, nothing fancy, but solid.
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Then I see this shadow image of me in the future, tired, gray, going through the same motions every day — safe but empty.
That’s what my head is saying, and those are the pictures that come with it.
Bea's reply:
Have you noticed that all the sentences had YOU as an addressee? What does it mean?
Horizon:
Whoa, you’re right. Every single sentence my head produced was like someone else talking at me.
It wasn’t me speaking — it was like a parent, a boss, society, some “responsible adult” voice.
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“You worked hard…”
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“You can’t afford…”
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“You’ll lose…”
It feels like an instruction manual being dictated to me, not my own voice.
What does that mean?
It makes me realize: maybe my “head” isn’t really my head at all. It’s a chorus of external expectations I’ve absorbed.
No wonder it feels heavy and restrictive — it’s not me thinking, it’s me repeating other people’s fears.
And suddenly I notice… when I try to find my actual inner voice, it’s quiet. Almost hidden underneath all those “YOU should…” commands.
Bea's reply:
Interesting huh? wow. Such a mindfuck but woahh
Ok guys this was very very fun.
Actually, the only reason why I came up with that cool question was because my husband gave me the same breakthough weeks ago. After finding my inner voice, my gut, my intuition, I had demonized rationality for a year. To him, this didn't sound right so he asked me a bunch of questions. At the beginning - this is so funny - I also had a hard time keeping focus while he spoke, which never happens, and this shows how I really had an evolution block there hahah. We remained patient and after HOURS I got to it: fuck it was never my rationality against my gut. It was what I had internalized as my inner dialogue, but was actually coming from EVERYBODY ELSE: my parents, my teachers, my "mentors", my friends... it wasn't even their fault. They never did it on purpose, some with the intent of protecting me, some with Who knows what intention, they instilled these thoughts into me, and I mistook them for mine. AND I involuntarily let them. Nobody does something to you without your consent (pls except extreme cases, we're talking about relationships), so maybe you don't know but you can say "no thank you", you can OBSERVE but not ABSORB a person's thought.
Cool no?
If you're curious, email me here https://www.lifebites.it/lightbulb-moments/ - let's see what happens 😉
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